We reveal unique hydrogen (H-) bonding patterns and exploit them to control the kinetics, pathways and length of supramolecular polymers (SPs). New bisamide-containing monomers were designed to elucidate the role of competing intra- vs. intermolecular H-bonding interactions on the kinetics of supramolecular polymerization (SP). Remarkably, two polymerization-inactive metastable states were discovered. Contrary to previous examples, the commonly assumed intramolecularly H-bonded monomer does not evolve into intermolecularly H-bonded SPs via ring opening, but rather forms a metastable dimer. In this dimer, all H-bonding sites are saturated, either intra- or intermolecularly, hampering elongation. The dimers exhibit an advantageous preorganization, which upon opening of the intramolecular portion of the H-bonding motif facilitates SP in a consecutive process. The retardation of spontaneous self-assembly as a result of two metastable states enables length control in SP by seed-mediated growth.