Ignorable likelihood (IL) approaches are often used to handle missing data when estimating a multivariate model, such as a structural equation model. In this case, the likelihood is based on all available data, and no model is specified for the missing data mechanism. Inference proceeds via maximum likelihood or Bayesian methods, including multiple imputation without auxiliary variables. Such IL approaches are valid under a missing at random (MAR) assumption. Rabe-Hesketh and Skrondal (Ignoring non-ignorable missingness. Presidential Address at the International Meeting of the Psychometric Society, Beijing, China, 2015; Psychometrika, 2023) consider a violation of MAR where a variable A can affect missingness of another variable B also when A is not observed. They show that this case can be handled by discarding more data before proceeding with IL approaches. This data-deletion approach is similar to the sequential estimation of Mohan et al. (in: Advances in neural information processing systems, 2013) based on their ordered factorization theorem but is preferable for parametric models. Which kind of data-deletion or ordered factorization to employ depends on the nature of the MAR violation. In this article, we therefore propose two diagnostic tests, a likelihood-ratio test for a heteroscedastic regression model and a kernel conditional independence test. We also develop a test-based estimator that first uses diagnostic tests to determine which MAR violation appears to be present and then proceeds with the corresponding data-deletion estimator. Simulations show that the test-based estimator outperforms IL when the missing data problem is severe and performs similarly otherwise.